"Love refers to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection ("I love my mother") to pleasure ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals."
Tuesday, 15 April 2014
“No matter what has happened. No matter what you’ve done. No matter what you will do. I will always love you. I swear it.”
––Defiance by C.J. Redwine
“I wanted to tell you that wherever I am, whatever happens, I’ll always think of you, and the time we spent together, as my happiest time. I’d do it all over again, if I had the choice. No regrets.”
––Boundless by Cynthia Hand
“And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.”
––Across the Universe by Beth Revis
“It’s one thing to fall in love. It’s another to feel someone else fall in love with you, and to feel a responsibility toward that love.”
––Every Day by David Levithan
“I love you the way a drowning man loves air. And it would destroy me to have you just a little.”
––The Crown of Embers by Rae Carson
“I’m in love with you, and I’m not in the business of denying myself the simple pleasure of saying true things. I’m in love with you, and I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labor has been returned to dust, and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have, and I am in love with you.”
––The Fault in Our Stars by John Green
“I never loved you any more than I do, right this second. And I’ll never love you any less than I do, right this second.”
––Beautiful Creatures by Kami Garcia, Margaret Stohl
“Sometimes I can’t see myself when I’m with you. I can only just see you.”
––Tiger Lily by Jodi Lynn Anderson
“I am catastrophically in love with you.”
––Clockwork Princess by Cassandra Clare
“I knew the second I met you that there was something about you I needed. Turns out it wasn’t something about you at all. It was just you.”
––Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire
“I love you. Remember. They cannot take it”
––Delirium by Lauren Oliver
“I want everyone to meet you. You’re my favorite person of all time.”
––Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell
“If my love were an ocean,
there would be no more land.
If my love were a desert,
you would see only sand.
If my love were a star-
late at night, only light.
And if my love could grow wings,
I’d be soaring in flight.”
––Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher
“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
––The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen
“I don’t care how hard being together is, nothing is worse than being apart.”
––Starcrossed by Josephine Angelini
“I want to be the friend you fall hopelessly in love with. The one you take into your arms and into your bed and into the private world you keep trapped in your head. I want to be that kind of friend. The one who will memorize the things you say as well as the shape of your lips when you say them. I want to know every curve, every freckle, every shiver of your body.
I want to know where to touch you, I want to know how to touch you. I want to know convince you to design a smile just for me. Yes, I do want to be your friend. I want to be your best friend in the entire world.”
––Unravel Me by Tahereh Mafi
“But you’ve slipped under my skin, invaded my blood and seized my heart.”
––Poison Study by Maria V. Snyder
“And I’ve realized that the Beatles got it wrong. Love isn’t all we need—love is all there is.”
––Second Chance Summer by Morgan Matson
“Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.”
––Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith
“No matter where I went, I always knew my way back to you. You are my compass star.”
––For Darkness Shows the Stars by Diana Peterfreund
––Defiance by C.J. Redwine
“I wanted to tell you that wherever I am, whatever happens, I’ll always think of you, and the time we spent together, as my happiest time. I’d do it all over again, if I had the choice. No regrets.”
––Boundless by Cynthia Hand
“And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.”
––Across the Universe by Beth Revis
“It’s one thing to fall in love. It’s another to feel someone else fall in love with you, and to feel a responsibility toward that love.”
––Every Day by David Levithan
“I love you the way a drowning man loves air. And it would destroy me to have you just a little.”
––The Crown of Embers by Rae Carson
“I’m in love with you, and I’m not in the business of denying myself the simple pleasure of saying true things. I’m in love with you, and I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labor has been returned to dust, and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have, and I am in love with you.”
––The Fault in Our Stars by John Green
“I never loved you any more than I do, right this second. And I’ll never love you any less than I do, right this second.”
––Beautiful Creatures by Kami Garcia, Margaret Stohl
“Sometimes I can’t see myself when I’m with you. I can only just see you.”
––Tiger Lily by Jodi Lynn Anderson
“I am catastrophically in love with you.”
––Clockwork Princess by Cassandra Clare
“I knew the second I met you that there was something about you I needed. Turns out it wasn’t something about you at all. It was just you.”
––Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire
“I love you. Remember. They cannot take it”
––Delirium by Lauren Oliver
“I want everyone to meet you. You’re my favorite person of all time.”
––Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell
“If my love were an ocean,
there would be no more land.
If my love were a desert,
you would see only sand.
If my love were a star-
late at night, only light.
And if my love could grow wings,
I’d be soaring in flight.”
––Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher
“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
––The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen
“I don’t care how hard being together is, nothing is worse than being apart.”
––Starcrossed by Josephine Angelini
“I want to be the friend you fall hopelessly in love with. The one you take into your arms and into your bed and into the private world you keep trapped in your head. I want to be that kind of friend. The one who will memorize the things you say as well as the shape of your lips when you say them. I want to know every curve, every freckle, every shiver of your body.
I want to know where to touch you, I want to know how to touch you. I want to know convince you to design a smile just for me. Yes, I do want to be your friend. I want to be your best friend in the entire world.”
––Unravel Me by Tahereh Mafi
“But you’ve slipped under my skin, invaded my blood and seized my heart.”
––Poison Study by Maria V. Snyder
“And I’ve realized that the Beatles got it wrong. Love isn’t all we need—love is all there is.”
––Second Chance Summer by Morgan Matson
“Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.”
––Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith
“No matter where I went, I always knew my way back to you. You are my compass star.”
––For Darkness Shows the Stars by Diana Peterfreund
Wednesday, 9 April 2014
"Ek Na Ek Din Mil Jane Ka Wada Karo,
Meri Zindagi Mein Aane Ka Wada Karo,
Bohat Tanha Hoon Main Tumhare Bin,
Mujhe Gale Se Lagane Ka Wada Karo,
Choom Kar Armaan In Honthon Ka Tum,
Saanson Mein Basane Ka Wada Karo,
Main Jo Kabhi Rooth Jaun Tum Se To,
Muskura Kar Manane Ka Wada Karo,
Agar Tham Loon Jo Main Tera Haath,
Mera Saath Nibhane Ka Wada Karo,
Hai Tamana Aakhiri Dhadkan Tak Tum,
Apne Dil Mein Sajane Ka Wada Karo,
Chhod Kar Chala Aaunga Saari Duniya,
Mujh Ko Apna Banane Ka Wada KarO..."
A Special World
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
Tuesday, 8 April 2014
Love vs Friendship
Love is an intense emotional attachment towards a person; it is also defined by many as a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude towards a person. Friendship is defined as a voluntary, close, and enduring social relationship between two or more persons.
The difference between love and friendship is a question that has been pondered over for a long time. It is very easy to confuse the two though even unconsciously neither is used interchangeably for the other. We know how to distinguish our love from our friends but we do not really know how to define the two. Even those really interested in the topic confuse themselves while explaining to the others the fine line that separates love from friendship or friendship from love? So confusing the two terms are that it even becomes difficult to explain which a subset of which is!
Love
It is easy to describe love as an emotion being present between two people for each other. It is an uncontrollable emotion that exists between a mother and her child, a brother and a sister, a husband and a wife, etc. The basis of love is that it only exists between pairs.
Love is also defined to be an emotion that completely takes over one person and compels them to act in ways they may not have otherwise even thought of doing so. It may compel one to sacrifice everything for someone they love, or be so emotionally attached or emotionally dependant on the other that a void is left when the other leaves.
Friendship
A friendship is a relationship that one has with many people at one time. A group of people can be confidants for someone who they can talk to and share fun moments with. In friendship, whenever the need arises, in situations of emergency for instance, the friends are always there to help. In friendship, a lot of things need not be explained to our friends. There are certain things that friends just understand and may not need explanations for. There is a deep connection amongst friends, kind of like telepathy that makes there mind run in sync.
Difference between Love and Friendship
The emotion of love compels one to sacrifice a lot; friendship is a relationship based more on trust. In love, though the special attachment is present, it is not enough for one to trust the other person. Therefore there arises that feeling of insecurity in love. Love is also a feeling shared between two people whereas friendship is a relationship one can have with plenty at one time. Some may be called good friends, some just friends and other acquaintances who you are delighted to see every time but it doesn’t make your heart beat fast or cause butterflies in your stomach like love does. It is generally said that in love, two people having the most opposite of personalities have that attraction between them but in friendship, it is generally the case that all friends have similar tastes and personas.
In Short:
Though both love and friendship will still remain to be confusing terms for generations to come, both are much cherished emotions and relationships that cause a delight in a person’s life when present.
Love is an intense emotional attachment towards a person; it is also defined by many as a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude towards a person. Friendship is defined as a voluntary, close, and enduring social relationship between two or more persons.
The difference between love and friendship is a question that has been pondered over for a long time. It is very easy to confuse the two though even unconsciously neither is used interchangeably for the other. We know how to distinguish our love from our friends but we do not really know how to define the two. Even those really interested in the topic confuse themselves while explaining to the others the fine line that separates love from friendship or friendship from love? So confusing the two terms are that it even becomes difficult to explain which a subset of which is!
Love
It is easy to describe love as an emotion being present between two people for each other. It is an uncontrollable emotion that exists between a mother and her child, a brother and a sister, a husband and a wife, etc. The basis of love is that it only exists between pairs.
Love is also defined to be an emotion that completely takes over one person and compels them to act in ways they may not have otherwise even thought of doing so. It may compel one to sacrifice everything for someone they love, or be so emotionally attached or emotionally dependant on the other that a void is left when the other leaves.
Friendship
A friendship is a relationship that one has with many people at one time. A group of people can be confidants for someone who they can talk to and share fun moments with. In friendship, whenever the need arises, in situations of emergency for instance, the friends are always there to help. In friendship, a lot of things need not be explained to our friends. There are certain things that friends just understand and may not need explanations for. There is a deep connection amongst friends, kind of like telepathy that makes there mind run in sync.
Difference between Love and Friendship
The emotion of love compels one to sacrifice a lot; friendship is a relationship based more on trust. In love, though the special attachment is present, it is not enough for one to trust the other person. Therefore there arises that feeling of insecurity in love. Love is also a feeling shared between two people whereas friendship is a relationship one can have with plenty at one time. Some may be called good friends, some just friends and other acquaintances who you are delighted to see every time but it doesn’t make your heart beat fast or cause butterflies in your stomach like love does. It is generally said that in love, two people having the most opposite of personalities have that attraction between them but in friendship, it is generally the case that all friends have similar tastes and personas.
In Short:
Though both love and friendship will still remain to be confusing terms for generations to come, both are much cherished emotions and relationships that cause a delight in a person’s life when present.
Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference?
As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the same area lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Also in the early stage of a relationship, when the sex hormones are raging, lust is fueled by idealization and projection--you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be--rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all.In my book on intuitive healing I discuss the difference between lust and love as well as techniques to enhance sexual wellness. Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy--it often dissipates when the "real person" surfaces. It's the stage of wearing rose colored glasses when he or she "can do no wrong." Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love.
SIGNS OF LUST
- You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
- You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
- You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
- You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
- You are lovers, but not friends.
- You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
- You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
- You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
- He or she motivates you to be a better person.
- You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
FOUR NEGATIVE GUT FEELINGS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
Watch for:
1. A little voice in your gut says "danger" or "beware."
2. You have a sense of malaise, discomfort, or feeling drained after you're together.
3. Your attraction feels destructive or dark.
4. You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that if you mention it, you'll push him or her away.
Over the years, I've spoken at women's prisons and domestic violence centers. My talk, "How Listening to Your Gut Can Prevent Domestic Violence," focuses on showing women how to identify and act on their inner voice. The gut senses a potential for kindness and violence. Many women who'd been in abusive relationships admitted, "My gut initially told me something was wrong--but I ignored it." The pattern was consistent. They'd say, "I'd meet a man. At first he'd be charming, sexy, sweep me off my feet. The electricity between us was amazing. I'd write off the voice in my gut that said 'you better watch out' as fear of getting involved. When later the abuse began, I was already hooked." Some gut instincts though, are anything but subtle. On a first date, one woman landed in the hospital with an IV, retching from "psychosomatic" abdominal pain. But did that stop her from seeing the guy? No. From these women we gain a real-world lesson: no matter how irresistibly attractive someone appears, close attention to your gut will enable you to see beneath exteriors.
It's so much nicer to be involved with someone your gut likes. Then you're not always guarding against a basic suspicion or incompatibility. You must also give yourself permission to listen to your gut when it says, "This person is healthy for you. You are going to make each other happy." To be happy, take a risk, but also pay attention to the warning signs I presented. This allows you to wisely go for the fulfilling relationships you deserve.
Judith Orloff MD is the author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life and Guide to Intutive Healing upon which this article is based. Her other books are Positive Energy and Second Signt. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness.
What Is Love -
"Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.But what is love, and how do we know when we're in it? First, let's start off with what love isn't."
What Is Love? It Definitely Isn't...
- Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.
- Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved.
- Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional violence isn't true love. (More: Dating Violence)
- Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect. (More: Is It Lust... Or Love?, Test Your Chemistry)
- So then, what exactly is love?
True Love Is...
- True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
- True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
- True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.
- True Love is Commited. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly commited to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
- True Love is Intimate. Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a great friendship, but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
